The Effect Technology will have on Relationships in the Future

Technology is growing everyday and in the future we can only imagine all the things that it will offer us. One thing is that technology will affect our relationships in the future. Most people like to agree on the fact that technology is dumbing us down while others argue against that statement. In an article I read called, “The future of relationships and technology” it states ,”There are arguments that we fall prey to group think, or that we lose our individuality, and all this technology is making our ‘human’ relationships somehow more shallow and less meaningful.

So the question is how will relationships change?

We need to filter the information we receive and test it for relevance and credibility and authencity, and we need to asses our relationships in the digital world with the same criteria we use when we meet someone in the physical world. It is precisely because we are ‘human’ that we are able to judge the emerging quality of relationships in either realm (Conway).  The author answers the question by saying, “I don’t know, and precisely because I don’t know means that I won’t make judgements today about what will be viewed as a real human relationship in the future. With technologies like holographics and haptics, who knows what relationships will be like in the future? Relationships in the future will be different, but will that mean they will be any less human? Maybe, maybe not, depending on whether today’s definition of being human survives intact into the future. Dismissing technology mediated relationships as negative and dangerous today closes down opportunities to explore, shape and influence the degree of human-ness in those online relationships. And that’s just dumb” (Conway).

In another article I read called, “happiness is this world” the author Steve Keye answered the question by stating, “The Internet is an amazing tool. But even as it’s shrunk the world and brought us closer together, it’s threatened to push us further apart. Like any useful tool, to make technology serve us well requires the exercise of good judgment. For whatever reason, the restraints that stop most of us from blurting out things in public we know we shouldn’t seem far weaker when our mode of communication is typing. Unfortunately, typed messages often wound even more gravely, while electronic messages of remorse paradoxically have little power to heal. Perhaps we just don’t think such messages have the same power to harm as when we we say them in person. Perhaps in the heat of the moment without another’s physical presence to hold us back, we just don’t care. Whatever the reason, it’s clearly far easier for us to be meaner to one another online. Let’s try not to be.” (Keye)

My answer to the question is that I think technology will bring us closer together. This is because the way a human’s mind works I think things will be invented where for example if were far away from each other the person could be right beside you. Or you can touch through phones, or some crazy stuff like that I just think will be invented.


Flash mobs and Relationships

Flash mobs are a group of people mobilized by social media to meet in a public place for the purpose of doing an unusual or entertaining activity of short duration. A flash mob happens when nobody expects it so that it can catch the crowd by surprise. The group of people is usually like 10 or more people and most of the time their unusual entertainment is a song or dance.

Some people use a flash mob for relationship purposes. In an article I read called, “Heartwarming Lion King Whistler flashmob proposal” a man named Jared Lekkas proposed to his longtime girlfriend Sofie Obermüller. Jared tried to keep it a secret but somehow people started to hear about what he was going to do and showed up just to watch it all go down. At the very last song Jared came through the crowd found Sophia and took off his lion king costume and proposed. She said yes and was very emotional.

In another article I read called, “Home Depot Flash Mob Proposal Goes Viral” a man named Dustin Reeser went to Home Depot expecting to meet a roomate there but when he got there he was surprised to see down the aisle a party of people waiting for him.   Friends and family made surprise appearances in small groups, with some  attending  through video chat. To everybody’s surprise his boyfriend came out and proposed to him. He immediately said yes after a little speech was said.

As a lot of people are all for a flash mob proposal some people are against it. In the blog I read called, “No Flash Mobs Proposals, Please!” the writer made some good points why she would not prefer it. She states that every girl wants the ideal fairy tale ending but she just doesn’t think that all that effort is such a good idea sometimes. Her points were what if she said no; what then? This would be very embarrassing for the boyfriend because all his hard work an effort would be a waste of time and a huge embarrassment in front of tons of people. Her next point was,”what if she said yes but was not actually ready or willing to make that commitment?” this is a tricky one because temptation and pressure can force people to do things that they do not necessarily agree with. A female could say yes to save her boyfriend the disappointment and embarrassment but then later in their relationship resent him because she felt forced to say yes. The writer feels that just because it is true love do you have to be so elaborate about it? The writer thinks that a few honest words is better than a performance and band.

So my question to my followers is how would you feel about a flash mob proposal??? #foodforthought

How Digital Divide affects Relationships

Digital divide is the gap between those people who have internet access and those who do not. Digital divide makes a difference in relationships of people who have the internet and people who do not.

In person relationship versus cyberspace relationship

In an article I read called, “The final Showdown” the author discusses the positives and negatives of cyberspace relationships. One of the positives was that when sending a message you are able to respond back at your own pace and whenever you want to. During these moments you are not pressured into a having to answer on the spot as opposed to being in person. A lot of people love this about having the internet because it gives a person the chance to think their thoughts through about how they feel before they respond. Some people feel as though they can express themselves better this way because they are thinking before communicating. The negative aspect behind this is how long it can take to receive a response.

Another positive aspect is that you can record your messages between one another. This allows people in a relationship to cherish moments when something sweet was said, or in another look you can use the messages to prove a point or remind somebody of what they said to you. Messaging gives people a little “comfort” zone. I say this because some people say stuff behind a screen that they would not say in person. This could go both ways and result in a good thing or even a bad.

In person the human voice is rich in meaning and emotion. Imagine if you did not have internet access, how would your relationship work out? My personal opinion is that it would be difficult but not bad. Instead of being able to talk to your significant other all day long you would have to wait until you got to a telephone to call. In a positive way you would cherish every moment you talked to each other because you do not know when you would have time to talk again. In a negative way if you do not have patience it would be hard to wait.

The article states that people cherish the voice of their loved one. Their voice can create feelings of joy and comfort. Another point is seeing is believing. We have all heard the expression actions speak louder than words. Seeing is believing the face and body language makes a big difference on how you understand people. Through the internet those cues are missing. In a relationship you want to be touched and visually see things and the internet just gets in the way of possibilities like that.

So this makes me wonder…..would your relationship survive without internet access?? #foodforthought

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This week in class we learned about Rights and Privacy Acts. My personal opinion is that we have the right to privacy within each other. For example, between people mind your business, at work your boss doesn’t need to know if I have a Facebook or instagram, but when it comes to the government they have every right to listen to my conversation and keep me safe. So privacy plays major roles to a certain extent.

Privacy Between Professors and Students

All over the world there are a lot of parent teacher relationships. In an article I read called, “Faculty-Student Relationship” the policy behind this relationship lies in the foundation of the educational process. Teachers are always suppose to stay within a certain extent of their student. For instance, privacy should take place. A student could share personal information with a teacher but a teacher shouldn’t ask personal questions unless the situation is very serious. A teacher shouldn’t ask a student to be friends with them on Facebook or things that could lead to an inappropriate relationship between them. In the university school system student’s do not have much privacy from their professors when it comes to their demographics and grades. I feel as though our teachers are there to help us be successful in our careers the only people that should be able to look up our information is our professor who taught us or our advisor, the registrar office, etc. any other teacher is irrelevant. Why would they need to look anyway.

Privacy within the workplace

The next article I read called, “Privacy in the Workplace” discussed the concerns about privacy who is reading your email, internet access, etc. A lot of employees at work feel like they are constantly being watched. Jobs will put cameras up to watch their employees before putting cameras up to watch customers. As an employee we should have the right to privacy. my boss doesn’t need to see who I am talking texting on my phone or what I do on my social networks. Now in some cases social life can affect the work life. For instance, a bad relationship at home can affect how somebody acts at work. Or things from your personal life can come not your work area. In situations like that a boss may feel obligated for an explanation, but as an employee you can refuse. The boss then could tell you keep your work life separate or fire you but they should not violate your privacy.

In the act of privacy there’s pros and cons to each scenario. The world will constantly face problems when it comes to this but it is just something we will have to deal with. The world would just be a better place if people could understand the policy and learn what limits to stay beneath and which ones can be crossed